Hi there Moonja
Thank you so much for replying. Yes, I think the manipulation and coercion occurred worldwide - always with the pregnant women who were vulnerable, or the families who were struggling and just needed a little help.
I believe adoption is built on inequality, that it relies on it. Those who take children to be adopted are always somehow socially approved. Those who lose them are always socially dismissed, even though the depth and complexity of being a human being means that the loss is felt profoundly. The taking of babies from the socially vulnerable is always masked by layers of stereotypes so that people are diverted from seeing what's really happening: that a baby is losing their family, and a mother is losing her child.
I read adoptee blogs and twitterfeeds widely, and have become more informed than I've ever been about domestic and international adoption. There is scandal at the heart of both. And the most intense and unrelenting grief. I feel like a crime has been committed against my son and I. We should never have been parted, and our lives have been devastated by the loss of each other. We are reunited now, and very loving and affectionate and open with each other, but we struggle intensely with that great big loss at the very epicentre of our lives and souls, and we should never have experienced that.
I really appreciate you replying. I wish you the very best.